4/22/2015
Why Your Child Isn't GoodYour children aren't good... but they aren't bad either.
The first step to redirecting your child's negative behavior is to realize that your child is either THRIVING or STRUGGLING. When you shift your mindset to realize your child is neither good or bad, you will have empathy for your children. This is so important, because you would not punish a child that you know is struggling. Your reaction would be to help that child to thrive. If you know your child is struggling, think about how you can help your child. Maybe it's giving your child a choice so they feel like they have some power. For example, if your child is throwing a fit because her dress shoes are dirty, you could say, "I'm sorry, your dress shoes are dirty right now. Would you rather wear your pink shoes or your brown boots?" You are not manipulating your child, rather you are giving your child a choice on a matter in which you have no preference. By giving your child choices, you can redirect their behavior. Additionally, you can give choices to adults and peers in your life. Possibly offer two positives first. For example, "Honey, I appreciated that you worked on the walkway yesterday and it was helpful that you played with our daughter while I got work done. I just have a few things left to do, would you be able to help me? The dishes need to be put in the dishwasher and the garbage needs to be taken out. Can you do one, which would you rather do?" Remember, the children and people around you are either struggling or thriving. Help them thrive! Support them. Offering choices is one simple way to help them gain some sense of power. Try it and tell me how it worked for you. Hear more about this topic here. If you have a problem in your relationships and you don't know what to do, bring your question to my next radio show.
4/6/2015
Take the 90 Day ChallengeSue Dockerill is putting you up to the challenge to better your life and improve your relationships in 90 days. Plus, Sue is offering a complimentary coaching session (a $150 value) and we guarantee you will have a breakthrough in the first session. Sue can help you with the following: Side step Power struggles Better Communication Consequences that work More time for self care Less stress Less nagging Children listen the first time Positive Co-parenting relationship What to do instead of spanking A teenager on track More peace less struggle No more sibling rivalry Juicy relationship Ignite the spark Bring out the best in others and the best in yourself Parent with the end in mind New redirecting behavior tools Over 101 ways to raise happy adults United front with spouse Ready to take the 90 Day Challenge?
3/31/2015
Parenting ResourcesI know there are many opinions out there on parenting, so I have created a list of resources to help point you to the best information out there.
The Life Skills Report Card Transform your parenting from reactive to proactive today with the Life Skills Report Card (LSRC). The LSRC makes communication with children about things you are already teaching them easier. ON LINE SUPPORT FOR PARENTS
"If parents have problems with their child’s behavior and all they have in their parental tool kit are bigger hammers, the kids are going to develop bigger nails."
I love this article by James Lehman, MSW. He outlines why power struggles happen and what to do about it.
2/24/2015
Is My Child Discouraged? 1. Gives up easily
2. Frequently uses statements such as: "I can't" "I don't know," "I don't care." 3. Acts withdrawn 4. Answers defensively 5 Creates fights 6 Complains that others pick on him. 7 Increases in misbehavior 8 Has somatic complaints, such as stomachache, headache, chest pain, dizziness, can't breathe, etc 9 Blames others, 10 Uses excessive excuses 11. Wants to avoid social situations 12 Complains of no friends 13 Looks sad 14 Has no purpose 15 Doesn't do his best 16 Takes things personally 17 Associates with peers that are a "bad influence" 18 Uses excessive behavior, i.e., eating, watching TV, playing video games, computer being alone, etc 19 Acts excessively compliant and submissive 20 Does poorly in school. If your notice several of these symptoms, for a week or more, talk with a counselor or a divorce coach. Read our coaching agreement booklet before deciding if coaching is the right choice for you. Coaching Booklet |
Susan Dockerill has 10 years of teaching children in public, private, and military schools at home and abroad, plus over 30 years teaching and mediating with parents and teachers. Susan has the expertise to speak frankly about marriage, divorce, children, and being responsible for living the life of your dreams.
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