I AGREE TO:
1. BE COACHABLE
2. COMPLETE THE REDIRECTING CHILDREN’S BEHAVIOR CLASS
(REDIRECTING MY BEHAVIOR TO GET RADICAL RESULTS)
3. PLAY FULL OUT
The first and most important thing is you have to play full out. Meaning, whatever it is that you put into something is exactly what you’re going to get out of it.
Your coach is there to guide you, to support you, to challenge you, to hold you accountable, to help you overcome some barriers that might be getting in your way. Your coach has an outside perspective on you, to help provide the game plan, the step by step, and to give you feedback on different things and help you make the right decisions, the right choices.
Ultimately they are there to help you but it is up to you to do the work. This is the hard part. Grinding, hustling, putting your nose down is not going to give you the best value out of the program. Doing ALL of the work is necessary necessary. You could have the best coach in the world, he can give you all the best advice, the best information, but if you’re not doing the work, if you’re not applying yourself and taking action, then that’s 100 percent your fault.
Research shows how well parents get along before and after the divorce is key in how well children get along with both parents. If the fighting continues it would make sense that the child would cling to one parent or let go of both. A child who fears one or both parents is at risk for drug abuse, early sexual experiences, and poor academic achievement. You can reach out to your coach and have your coach help you find out why you are not taking action. What’s stopping you, what are the obstacles, what are the roadblocks getting in the way that’s preventing you from getting the results that you want. Your coach can be there for you, but again it’s up to you to make the changes necessary to get the results that you’re after.
You have to make sure you put everything in, you’re taking massive action, and you’re being coachable. When your coach says to do something, you do it. You don’t question it, you don’t argue it, you don’t have resistance. You’re just being coachable and you’re trusting your coach.
4. TRUST THE METHOD TO THE MADNESS
I always remind myself of the example from Karate Kid. Where Mr. Miyagi is trying to teach Daniel’s son karate and Daniel just wants to learn the karate moves but Mr. Miyagi has him paint the fence and wax the car and sand the floor, and Daniel doesn’t understand any of that sort of stuff and he has some resistance, but ultimately he trusts his mentor and he does it regardless.
It is important because sometimes when you’re working with someone and they’re coaching you, you might not immediately see the benefit of it, There is a method to the madness. You have to trust the person and believe that this is going to help you get where you want to be.
Take action, listen, and be coachable. Every coaching session that you have, come prepared. If you have a 30-minute coaching session, you should be spending maybe 30 minutes preparing for that session.
2. COMPLETE THE REDIRECTING CHILDREN’S BEHAVIOR CLASS
(REDIRECTING MY BEHAVIOR TO GET RADICAL RESULTS)
3. PLAY FULL OUT
The first and most important thing is you have to play full out. Meaning, whatever it is that you put into something is exactly what you’re going to get out of it.
Your coach is there to guide you, to support you, to challenge you, to hold you accountable, to help you overcome some barriers that might be getting in your way. Your coach has an outside perspective on you, to help provide the game plan, the step by step, and to give you feedback on different things and help you make the right decisions, the right choices.
Ultimately they are there to help you but it is up to you to do the work. This is the hard part. Grinding, hustling, putting your nose down is not going to give you the best value out of the program. Doing ALL of the work is necessary necessary. You could have the best coach in the world, he can give you all the best advice, the best information, but if you’re not doing the work, if you’re not applying yourself and taking action, then that’s 100 percent your fault.
Research shows how well parents get along before and after the divorce is key in how well children get along with both parents. If the fighting continues it would make sense that the child would cling to one parent or let go of both. A child who fears one or both parents is at risk for drug abuse, early sexual experiences, and poor academic achievement. You can reach out to your coach and have your coach help you find out why you are not taking action. What’s stopping you, what are the obstacles, what are the roadblocks getting in the way that’s preventing you from getting the results that you want. Your coach can be there for you, but again it’s up to you to make the changes necessary to get the results that you’re after.
You have to make sure you put everything in, you’re taking massive action, and you’re being coachable. When your coach says to do something, you do it. You don’t question it, you don’t argue it, you don’t have resistance. You’re just being coachable and you’re trusting your coach.
4. TRUST THE METHOD TO THE MADNESS
I always remind myself of the example from Karate Kid. Where Mr. Miyagi is trying to teach Daniel’s son karate and Daniel just wants to learn the karate moves but Mr. Miyagi has him paint the fence and wax the car and sand the floor, and Daniel doesn’t understand any of that sort of stuff and he has some resistance, but ultimately he trusts his mentor and he does it regardless.
It is important because sometimes when you’re working with someone and they’re coaching you, you might not immediately see the benefit of it, There is a method to the madness. You have to trust the person and believe that this is going to help you get where you want to be.
Take action, listen, and be coachable. Every coaching session that you have, come prepared. If you have a 30-minute coaching session, you should be spending maybe 30 minutes preparing for that session.
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1. Have a list of questions prepared to ask your coach
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Providing information to your coach before each session is going to help your coach create a better experience for you. It’s going to help save time during your session and they’re going to know exactly where you are at and it will help them prepare for the session as well.
5. KEEP A JOURNAL
Take notes. All of the clients that I work with send me what is called a meeting prep form. This basically allows me to see exactly where they are at, what actions they took, what challenges they had, what successes they might have had, what they want to get from this session, and certain questions they might have for me as well.
5. KEEP A JOURNAL
Take notes. All of the clients that I work with send me what is called a meeting prep form. This basically allows me to see exactly where they are at, what actions they took, what challenges they had, what successes they might have had, what they want to get from this session, and certain questions they might have for me as well.
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EXAMPLE: What do I do when my child…? My child___. What can I do to redirect my child’s behavior?
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The clients that always get the best results are the ones that are prepared. Working with people that aren’t prepared is tough. They show up late, they are not making progress, and it’s challenge to help that person because they’re not able to focus on the real things that are going to get them the results. Rather, you’re focusing on playing catch-up with that person and helping them to resolve some of the mental challenges and the habits that they might have that’s stopping them from actually applying themselves. You can always fast-track it just by preparing and just taking massive action as much as you can. At the end of each coaching session I always recommend to have an action plan, measurable actions that you can apply for yourself that can help you make progress. Discuss this with your coach, try to make it into an actionable plan, some sort of practical way, certain steps or rituals or habits or actions that you can take to ensure that you’re applying what you’ve learned!
6. TAKE ACTION AND DO THE WORK
Knowledge alone is worthless. Knowledge is only potential power. The real power is the ability to learn and take action. The action is where you get the real results. Not just by listening or taking notes you have to apply yourself in every way to get maximum results!
Taking notes, writing things down so that you can remember things as much as possible.
So, listening to your coach, playing full out, taking notes, massive action. Very, very important, as long as you’re doing that and you’re taking action in all situations, and every time you show up for a session you’re enthusiastic, you’re open, you’re being coachable, you’re listening to your coach.
Coaches can work with that. Coaches create radical results with clients that listen to them and take action. If you do that, your coach is going to be able to provide the next steps for you and take you to an even further level, and really fast-track the progress towards where you want to go.
If you’re not taking action, if you’re not showing up, you’re wasting your time. You’re wasting your money. If parents show up wanting kids to change but are unwilling to change how they behave nothing is going to change.
6. TAKE ACTION AND DO THE WORK
Knowledge alone is worthless. Knowledge is only potential power. The real power is the ability to learn and take action. The action is where you get the real results. Not just by listening or taking notes you have to apply yourself in every way to get maximum results!
Taking notes, writing things down so that you can remember things as much as possible.
So, listening to your coach, playing full out, taking notes, massive action. Very, very important, as long as you’re doing that and you’re taking action in all situations, and every time you show up for a session you’re enthusiastic, you’re open, you’re being coachable, you’re listening to your coach.
Coaches can work with that. Coaches create radical results with clients that listen to them and take action. If you do that, your coach is going to be able to provide the next steps for you and take you to an even further level, and really fast-track the progress towards where you want to go.
If you’re not taking action, if you’re not showing up, you’re wasting your time. You’re wasting your money. If parents show up wanting kids to change but are unwilling to change how they behave nothing is going to change.
Changing other people is impossible. Changing ourselves to produce desired results is radical.
Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing or thinking helpful or hurtful?”
Ask yourself, “Is what I am doing or thinking helpful or hurtful?”