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Homework - module 3: ​Four Goals Behind Misbehavior

Module Three focuses on understanding and redirecting the four mistaken goals of children's behavior as identified by Dr. Rudolf Dreikurs. These goals are fundamental to comprehending why children act out and how parents can effectively respond to guide their children towards positive behaviors.

• Listen to the video lesson
• Read chapters 9. 10, 11 and 12 in "Redirecting Children's Behavior". Share your favorite thoughts from the book.
• Give an example of one or more goals you were able to redirect (pp 114-119 goal chart)
• Make a copy of the chart to help you quickly identify your first feeling when your child behaves a certain way. 
  
• Four Mistaken Goals:
  
  • Attention: Children seeking constant attention believe that being the center of attention makes them feel valued.
    
  • Power: When children challenge rules or authority, they are often seeking to establish a sense of power or control.
    
  • Revenge: Children who feel hurt may act out in ways intended to hurt others, as a means of seeking revenge.
    
  • Inadequacy: Some children may adopt behaviors that exhibit a sense of inadequacy, believing they can't succeed, so they cease trying.
    
• Practical Tips:
  • Stay Calm: When redirecting behavior, it's essential to remain calm and collected. Children are highly perceptive and can sense tension.
    
  • Consistency: Be consistent in your responses to help reinforce new, positive behaviors.
    
  • Positive Reinforcement: Use positive reinforcement to replace negative attention-seeking behaviors with constructive actions. “You look like you need a hug.” 
    
• Practice redirecting your children's goals. Give an example of one goal you were able to redirect.
• Reference the Logical Consequences worksheet when answering the homework.
• Have an Encouragement Feast with your family. What was the result or take away from this experience?
  • Tip: Remember to have one person go first then everyone says what they love about him or her. Then they say what they love about themselves. Continue until everyone has a turn. (Pp 88-92)
•  Weekly Co-Parenting Challenge to Share on AppClose
  
  • Pick one mistaken goal to focus on for the week. Implement strategies learned in the module and observe any changes in your child's behavior.
    
  • Report back to your Co-Parent on your experiences, challenges, and successes by Sunday at 8pm on the AppClose thread. 
    
• Complete this Weekly Check-In Worksheet